How to Take Notes Without Losing Your Mind

It's not personal and yet, criticism is still hard to hear. So take a breath and a pause and then, use the feedback to get better.

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Last night I read my chapter to my writer’s group. Then I waited. As I watched on Zoom, while they put their heads down and scratched notes across my pages, drew stars and hearts, scratched out sentences.

When they spoke, they shared their notes and feedback—positive stuff first, because they are the best kind of writer’s group— then suggestions about how to change the dialogue so it didn’t feel so “scripty,” places I could cut to improve pacing, elements to add that might enrich character.

It takes guts to write and even more courage to share it with others, but the feedback we take in makes us better writers, and knowing how to use it is an essential skill.

Feedback and constructive criticism should not be an attack.

There is no room for personal jabs, put downs, or criticisms of your personality. Nor do you want softballs about how your writing is terrific and beautiful. It can always be improved. Neither of these approaches will make you better. Steer clear of readers who don’t respect the rules of constructive criticism or the parameters you provide.

Pay Attention to Patterns

The right kind of reader or editor will help you identify what’s working and what isn’t. The key is to listen for patterns, ask questions, and remember your intent.